Celebrity love teams are very big in the Philippines. For a number of stars, being the other half of a popular tandem became their claim to fame. A big chunk of today’s television shows and movies also feature love teams very prominently. Each decade or generation has been dominated by successful tandems and something tells me this love team phenomenon is here to stay for quite some time. You can’t deny that love teams hold a certain power in the industry and this is evident in all the blockbusters and amount of following that they generated.
I guess love teams symbolize our fantasies and ideals about romance and relationships. Something magical happens when you watch love teams do their work onscreen and more so when you start getting attached to them. It’s such a wonderful feeling to allow yourself to give in to whatever the love team is offering - experience of kilig, nervousness, heartbreak, loss and love. At first, you’re just appreciating the love story or the material then you slowly realize that the love team is a big part of why the show or movie works. You start to appreciate the chemistry and the dynamics of the actor and actress. Next thing you know, you’re rooting for them so hard it affects you greatly when things go awry for them.
FROM REEL TO REAL
Things don’t end at getting hooked in the whirlwind reel love though. Fans like me dig deeper, we yearn for something beyond the confines of make-believe fairy tales that the entertainment industry provide us. That’s where things get exciting and dangerous at the same time. When you’re part of a love team (especially a bankable one), it’s inevitable that you’ll be linked together and that people will try to guess if you’re dating each other. Sometimes, love teams really do transcend fictional love and pursue a relationship off-screen. Great news for their avid supporters when that happens.
However, there are times when a love team is just that - a love team, just an actor and an actress doing their jobs. This is a big disappointment for their die-hard fans, of course. Some fans take things well and don’t mind if their fave pair is not dating for real but some fans don’t handle their frustrations right. Absence of a real-life romance is just one of the many causes of fan frustration. It could also stem from love teams breaking up whether for reel or for real and perhaps being romantically linked to other people, people you don’t ship them with. Fans get too involved sometimes and while I believe that involvement is necessary for the love team to thrive, it can be alarming at some point. I’ve had my own share of personal heartbreaks when it comes to reel-and-real tandems so I know how it feels. When your favorite couple drifts apart or separates, it feels like you were part of the break-up too. It hurts because you did not only invest time and effort but a great deal of emotion as well; you gave a part of yourself. You wish that everything is just a bad dream and hope that they’d get back together until you just get tired.
Once upon a time, I shipped Sam Milby-Toni Gonzaga. When I found out Toni got a boyfriend (that’s not Sam obviously), I got so mad. I didn’t handle it well; I was so immature that time. I jump shipped to Sam Milby-Anne Curtis and fell in love with the tandem. Even though SamAnne was basically a rebound love team for me, I have no regrets because I found new happiness in this team-up. One of my biggest love team heartaches was when SamAnne broke up. They were just so perfect together. I honestly believed that they were going to end up marrying each other and have beautiful kids. It wasn’t the first time they broke up so I really thought that it was just another temporary setback and that they’re gonna reconcile again soon. But, they didn’t and realizing this was very painful on my part. Thankfully, I knew better this time and I guess you can say I was more prepared to deal with stuff like this.
Moving on is always difficult especially when you’re not really ready to let go yet. But, seeing Anne very happy with her new beau, Erwan Heussaff definitely made things easier for me. I can’t really say I’m a fan of the Erwan or their tandem but I can safely say that I am genuinely happy for Anne. I appreciate Erwan because he makes Anne happy, he makes her smile and he influences her in a good way. I have also come to accept that Sam will continue to pursue other women in the future and he did. I only wish the best for Anne and Sam in terms of their personal love life. SamAnne will always have a special place in my heart and until now, I still love this pair very dearly. Sometimes, I still wonder "What if they didn’t break up?" and I guess a part of me still wishes they would get back together someday. I don’t mean to say I’m secretly hoping Anne would break up with her boyfriend. I sincerely hope that won’t happen because I know that they are in love and Anne would be very hurt in that scenario. I’m also not wishing that Sam will not find another woman to love. It’s kinda complicated really. For me, it’s just a fantasy; something to ponder on and not really take seriously. I’m just really relieved and glad that Sam and Anne continued to be good friends and are doing well in their careers and personal life. They might not be as close as before but at least they are in good terms and are even going to star in a reunion movie soon.
FROM KIMERALD TO KIMXI
I guess you can compare my SamAnne story to my journey from being a Kimerald fan to a KimXi fan. When the PBBTE1 housemates were revealed and I saw Gerald Anderson, I knew it was love at first sight. He was my favorite and I only started liking Kim Chiu when the whole Kimerald thing was being developed. When they got out of the house and went on to pursue showbiz as a love team, I kinda felt that I was becoming more and more of a Kim fan than although I loved them both individually and as a tandem. I supported Kimerald through the years in many ways that a fan could. I watched their shows and movies, supported them online, followed their escapades on and off screen, made fan arts, etc. Although they didn’t directly admit their relationship that time, it was sort of implied that they were together and that they were happy. They were the cutest couple for me at that time.
When news of their break-up exploded, I was so devastated. I felt like I was in some kind of nightmare. I thought they were in it for the long haul, till the very end. It’s like SamAnne all over again, except much worse and much more controversial too. At this time, it was already established that the Kim fan in me was more dominant, even more dominant than my love team fan gene. But, it still hurt a lot. I tried my best to convince myself that it was all going to be okay. They were together for 4 years so they can’t just throw that away right? I didn’t know how to feel. I was kinda mad at Gerald but I didn’t want to completely hate him. I chose to sympathize with Kim without totally bashing Gerald. It was a difficult time for the Kimerald fans, especially those who have loved them since PBB. A lot of drama ensued - withdrawal of support by some fans, heated discussions, blame games, hate messages for Gerald and his rumored new girlfriend, etc. The parallels between the issue and their movie, Till My Heartaches End (TMHE), also made things more interesting and more dramatic.
Even though Kim tried to appear strong on-cam, I still felt her pain. Of course, she was hurt and she had the right to. When she broke down and cried during the press conference of TMHE, gosh I wanted to give her a big hug. I wanted to tell her everything’s gonna be okay. Deep inside, I think I also needed to hear that myself. Like Kim, I was also in that state where I needed to understand that things happen for a reason. I’m just grateful that I wasn’t alone in that struggle and I had my fellow fans whom I knew are going through the same thing. In the same way, it was a comfort knowing Kim had her family, friends and God to strengthen and encourage her.
I’ll never forget that Kimerald played a big part in my fandom life but I had to move on and face reality. I began to slowly stop being a Gerald fan and focused on supporting Kim. A number of fans also went the same direction. We were on the lookout for possible new onscreen partners for Kim. I couldn’t think of anyone else apart from Enchong Dee whom I also fangirled over. Kim starred in a series of Your Song episodes where she was paired with different leading men. She was able to mix well with her partners and I enjoyed watching the show. But, somehow it’s just lacking something. It’s not kilig enough.
Things changed when My Binondo Girl came along. Among Kim’s three leading men, I found Xian Lim the most attractive. I was familiar with Xian but I wasn’t really that interested with him that time. I was rooting for his character, Andy, for Jade (Kim’s character) though because he had the strongest chemistry with her physically. As the show progressed, I was rooting for them more and more intensely. When the JanDy angle took centerstage, I started gaining interest in the tandem and in Xian. I would make fan arts, join discussions online about them, etc. That’s how I started as a KimXi fan.
At first, it was really just all about JanDy for me. But then, I slowly began appreciating KimXi too and basically fell in love with Xian. I officially joined the KimXi fandom, met new friends and even strengthened my bond with other Kim fans. It felt great being in the love team fandom again. I joined without any big expectations. I was not pushing them to be real cause I didn’t want to get disappointed. For me, it was just a mere decision to be part of their journey as a love team. Wherever this KimXi thing might lead to, I’ll just go with the flow and enjoy the ride.
Then things happened like the giant teddy bear which made me think, "Hey, maybe we got something here". More and more fans started to notice that there is something going on, something more than love team action. It was a flourishing friendship and as time went by, it became more probable that this friendship can blossom to something more. KimXi’s fan base grew as they got closer to each other. The media also began hinting on a possible romance. I welcomed this idea with open arms although I was not completely sold out yet. I can’t help but wonder if this was all a publicity stunt because they had a show and the management found unexpected success in their team-up. Other peolple also had doubts, even accusing Xian of using Kim to rise from the ranks. I’m guilty of entertaining this thought too at some point. I didn’t want to get my hopes up and invest in something that would only fail me again. I continued supporting them but with a considerable distance.
But, Xian has proven himself time and again of his intentions. My doubts and walls have been slowly shattered as I witnessed Kim and Xian’s budding relationship. I think you can tell if someone is pretending or not eventually. Xian is very consistent in his statements and actions, that he only wants the best for Kim, that he’ll always just be there for her and that he wants to show how much he appreciates her, he wants to make her happy. He made effort to be close to her family because he knows how much Kim values her family. He helps her become a better person. He encouraged her to be active in social media and to play guitar again. He would constantly show Kim how much he cares like that time he flew to Cebu to be there when Kim’s mom died. I can cite a million examples and anecdotes but it would take some time to mention everything. Point is, he tried to break the walls that Kim had without being too pushy or aggressive. He did it gently and with the purest intentions. Most importantly, he made her smile again. I missed seeing her smile like this. :) It took a while to see her eyes glow too.
More than anything, that’s what really convinced me to root for Xian and ship KimXi this much. I saw how happy Kim is and every day, Xian convinces me that he is Mr. Prince Charming and it was not a mistake to trust him. I choose to see this truth because, well that’s the truth for me and denying it won’t change anything. I understand that this might be challenging for some fans who still believe in Kimerald or those who don’t like Xian for Kim. It’s ok really, you don’t have to force yourself to like KimXi. You can always choose to ship whoever you want. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with reminiscing and posting all these throwback photos as long as you’re aware and you fully acknowledge that those are something from the past. I do it with SamAnne sometimes but I know that things are different now. It’s ok to entertain this fantasy for a while of going back in time where everything was perfect in your perspective but you can’t totally discount the present reality. You don’t have to embrace it, maybe just accept it.
Sometimes, we don’t see the truth because we are blinded by our own agenda and biases. It’s all a matter of the heart. Ask yourself this: Are you really looking after Kim’s welfare and happiness or are you just pushing your own happiness and your own fantasy? I don’t know about you but when I sincerely love someone, I would want only the best for them and I’d pray for their true happiness. My personal preferences are out of the picture. It’s not about me or my own fantasies. We can’t let our fangirling nature get the better of us. I’d love for Anne to get back with Sam but if she’s truly happy with Erwan then I have to respect that and hope for the best, for Anne’s sake. We might feel that we’re entitled to meddle with their lives because they’re celebrities but we don’t have the right. They are also just humans (only prettier and richer than us) who like to freely do things normal people do. We have to know our boundaries and where we stand. We are just their fans. We can’t be too protective or too possessive of them because we don’t own them. Ultimately, everything is still up to us.
As for me, I choose to believe this. ;)
Photos not mine unless tagged. Credit to their owners.
Thoughts on Anne Curtis, KC Concepcion and Instagram Wars
Three days ago, KC Concepcion posted an Instagram photo with a quote. I only saw the photo today, after being notified by a fellow Anne Curtis fan. A lot of people, fans from both camps as well as other netizens flocked to give their reactions and a number of them immediately connected it to Anne Curtis.
Connected or not, I think KC should be more careful with her posts and how people would interpret them. I’m not saying it’s wrong to post these things or these quotes. Perhaps they really have nothing to do with Anne and she’s just being her usual self by posting her current feelings or thoughts. Who knows right? But, she has to understand that timing is very important. The issue is still very fresh; the public and the media have not stopped feasting on it. And, she also has to remind herself that she is a public figure so it’s inevitable that people will dig deep in whatever comes out of her mouth or share to the public. Perhaps KC wants to freely post whatever she wants but she has to be prepared of its possible aftermath. I understand that it’s a big burden for celebrities to think of what other people will say or how they will react. It must be such a daunting task but they have to do it and do it consistently.
I thought that after her juice post on Instagram, she would be more cautious so as not to let anyone misinterpret her posts again. She is already aware that her previous post about the juice drink became the subject of controversy after people thought she was "making parinig" and was trying to diss Anne. She is adding fuel to the flame and is setting up a new breeding ground for controversial discussions, whether on purpose or not. People are continuously feuding on the comments section of her IG photo (as expected), just like what happened with her juice photo. Maybe next time, she can put a disclaimer or something.
I remember an old Showtime episode where Anne joked around and teased Maja Salvador by calling her "Majarot". It would have been just a harmless banter and given the setting (a noontime show full of humor and fun), Maja shouldn’t be that offended right? But, the problem was that it happened during the height of the whole Kim-Gerald-Maja issue. Maja was getting a lot of flak so calling her names like that on national TV only made things worse and also made Anne look insensitive. Anne was not aware of the issue and probably only found out about it after being criticized for her remark. She immediately explained that she knew nothing about the issue and apologized for what she said. I believe that if Anne had prior knowledge about Maja’s situation and the whole media frenzy that it caused, she would know better than make jokes like that especially on live television.
To KC’s fans, I hope you don’t take this negatively. Although I’m not really a KC fan, I have no ill feelings towards her and I respect her as an artist and as a person. I’m not accusing KC of deliberately "making parinig". I also have no proof that KC is indeed referring to Anne. I just hope that the next time she posts her thoughts and puts something out there, she would think more than twice and assess all the possible consequences that come with it.
To fellow Anne fans, please don’t aggravate the situation any further by bashing KC or exchanging hateful words with her fans. I humbly ask you to resist the urge to post negativity on her Instagram/Twitter. If you have something to say, convey your message the mature and correct way.
To everyone, let us not push these two ladies to go into a war they never wanted to be in. Wag na nating pagsabungin. Let us also be responsible in whatever we say and do. Make love, not war. :)
Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. (1 Peter 2:1)
don't you agree that Anne's "i can buy you, your friends, and this club!" thing reflects how highly she thinks of herself?
At that moment, I guess she did think of saying some things that she shouldn’t have because it won’t come out of her mouth if she didn’t think of saying those in the first place. BTW, Phoemela Barranda already confirmed that Anne did not say those words to her. But again, she was under the influence of alcohol. She was very very drunk and probably pretty pissed off when someone disturbed her in the CR. She was not thinking clearly and was acting very foolish. I’ve said some things to other people that I didn’t really mean or did not really reflect my personality because I was experiencing high emotions like too much anger, pride, etc or when I’m really pissed off. I’m not justifying that it’s ok to lash out on someone or act stupid if you’re pissed off, emotional or intoxicated. It’s not. But I’m just trying to make people understand the reason behind her actions. It’s not a good enough reason of course to get her off the hook.
Again, my point in the blog entry was never to get Anne off the hook. She did something wrong, she didn’t deny it, she apologized to the people she offended and to the public, the offended people forgave her and that’s it. We can all learn a thing or two from what happened especially Anne but other than that, I don’t see the point in dwelling on the act itself so much. And I also don’t understand what they exactly want to happen to Anne. Have her condemned forever? Don’t ever give her a chance to change, make up for what she did and redeem herself? If everyone thinks this way, then we’re all screwed because we all make mistakes.
Hindi katanggap-tanggap yung ginawa ni Anne. Kahit na sinong tao, walang karapatan sabihin na kaya nyang bilhin ang kapwa-tao niya. Alam kong fan ka niya pero wag mo namang ipilit na "sweet and kind" siya dahil walang sweet at kind na taong gumagawa ng ganung bagay. Wag ring sisihin ang alak. Kung wala sa utak niya ang mga bagay na yun, walang lalabas.
Hello. :) I said she was “sweet and kind” based on MY own experience of meeting her on several occasions. Perhaps my own experience of meeting Anne is different from other people’s. Who knows? But my own testimonial says she is sweet and kind. :) When my friends describe me to other people who don’t know me, I’d like to think that they would also say good things about me if their personal experience of being my friend was also good.
I agree that what she did that night (or early morning) was very WRONG, and not very sweet and kind at all. I’m not pleading that people disregard the issue altogether, but I just hope people don’t condemn Anne and deem her an evil person completely or say things that are below-the-belt. The person already apologized for what she has done and I believe this will serve as a lesson to her and to other people. I just think nothing good will come out of constantly reminding a person how bad she is/was instead of acknowledging that she has chosen to seek forgiveness and encourage her to change for the better. :)
Hi! I totally understand you as a 'die hard' fan of Ms. Anne and I totally get it. Not a fan of her but yes, people make mistakes in life. My only complaint on her was that she should have known better knowing that she's an A-List celebrity and all and should be more vigilant on her actions. As they say, forgiven but not forgotten. Bad behavior isn't the fault of alcohol but of the person. Intoxication can change a person's behavioral aspects but 'sober' in thoughts....
I guess Anne wasn’t “vigilant in her actions” because she was so drunk and was acting very foolish. I’m pretty sure that she would know better than do those things when she’s in the right state of mind. But, I understand your sentiments too. :)
Like what I said in the blog, the act itself was totally wrong and there’s just no way to sugarcoat it but I am just glad and relieved that she admitted it and apologized. :)
What I Think About Anne Curtis’ Bar Incident and Why I Still Love Her
Yesterday (Dec 1) , I was literally shocked when I heard about the latest controversy of Anne Curtis’ on PEP - a bar incident where she supposedly slapped some people including John Lloyd Cruz. I never imagined she could do those things, even on a smaller scale. But I guess that’s what alcohol can do to you.
Anne was obviously intoxicated and was not thinking clearly when she did those terrible things. She was very much drunk and like what she said in her apology text message to JM Rodriguez, one of the people she slapped, she "would never act like that in the right state of mind!". If Anne has done these acts consistently on several occasions (and while sober), then that’s a different story.
This issue spread like wildfire of course. Although there are a number of fans and supporters who understood the situation and has forgiven Anne, there are also a lot of people who chose to judge her, condemn her and say nasty things about her. I’m not letting Anne off the hook by saying it was not her fault and being drunk is enough excuse to slap a box-office king or the owner of the club you’re staying at. No, I’m not going to defend her by justifying what she did because what she did was really horribly wrong.
As a fan, it pains me to see people judging Anne and saying all these negative things about her. Some are even below-the-belt. I’m not going to deny the fact that I was very disappointed in what happened. But I’m not going to judge Anne and withdraw my love and support just because of that. Especially, when Anne has done necessary actions to amend the error of her ways.
I’m not celebrating the act she has done. That’s not what I’m proud of. I am proud of how she handled the situation and what she did to make things right. She did not take the easy way out or use any damage control tactics that some celebrities usually do like denying or avoiding the issue. She was brave and humble enough to admit the act, own up to her mistakes and apologize to the offended parties and to the public. Not a lot of people have the guts to do this and what she did was truly admirable. :)
We all make mistakes. Come on. Don’t tell me you haven’t done something bad. I have done some pretty unpleasant stuff in my 20 years of existence. Sometimes, I say some things I usually don’t say or shouldn’t say when I’m level-headed. Case in point: There are times when I would say something offensive to a friend when my emotions are high. Then, I would apologize and they would accept and forget the whole thing. It’s not as far-fetched as slapping people or telling them I can buy them (cause I can’t) but the thing is.. they’re still wrong. No matter how small that mistake is, it’s still sin.
"Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." (John 8:7)
Condemn the act, not the person. It’s easy to judge a person especially someone like Anne who has living in the limelight since forever. Ask yourself this. When you make a mistake (and trust me, you are bound to make mistakes unless you’re God), do you like people to write you off as a bad person completely and label you for that single act? Do you want to be condemned forever and not given the chance to make up for what you did and to change for the better? Do you want to stay at that position for life even if you already sincerely apologized and made amends? Also, do you want people to forget all the good things you have done in the past just because of a mistake or two? Are we all just going to discount all that good things Anne has done? How she makes people laugh and smile? How she encourages people to appreciate life? How she inspires people to dream? How she helps those in need especially during crucial times? How she makes this world a better place by spreading beauty? If we won’t be given the chance to redeem ourselves then we’re all screwed because we are all bound to miss the mark every now and then.
I have met Anne in person many times already and I only have good words for her. Apart from being stunningly gorgeous, she is a very sweet and kind girl. I have been her fan way back before she really hit super duper stardom status (before Showtime & No Other Woman) and I can truly say that she’s still very approachable and friendly until now. My experience of meeting Anne might be different from others. Who knows? But this is my own personal experience of meeting her. I’m not going to forget all her good qualities just because of one mistake which she has deeply regretted and apologized for.
We are all human and we all sin. Fortunately for us, there is hope and forgiveness. That’s the beauty of God’s grace and mercy, it’s never-ending and unconditional :). All you have to do is come to Him and He will always accept you no matter what. What is important is how we make up for the wrong we did, ask forgiveness from people we wronged and from God and we learn from our mistakes.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)
And unlike people who constantly remind you of your sin, God frees you from this bondage and gives you a clean slate :)
Then he adds: “Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.” (Hebrews 10:17)
As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. (Psalm 103:12)
To my fellow fans, just ignore those who continue to spread harsh comments about Anne or if you opt to defend Anne’s name, don’t do the same act of bashing that they’re doing. Do it the right, civilized and mature way.
To Anne, be strong and take heart in God’s Word. Don’t let the negativity from people sink in. You have done your part in apologizing and in making things right. Be relieved in knowing that God has forgiven you and that He doesn’t see the sin you committed when He looks at you. Instead, He sees a woman made beautiful and pure by His grace and mercy. :) This will all come to pass and things will be better. :)
"Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool." (Isaiah 1:18)
We love you very much and we will always be here for you. :) Sending you my hugs and kisses ❤